All posts by Jamie Pettus

I'm a therapist, lesbian, technology (and Apple) geek, and I like to write.

If I Have Gay Children: Four Promises From a Christian Pastor/Parent

First a couple of comments and then I will let this wonderful blog post speak for itself. I will repost it in its entirety, partly because I think there’s been so much traffic to the original post that I’ve had a very hard time getting to the original website.

I ran across this blog post by a Christian pastor yesterday. It’s a beautiful expression of love from a father, and support from a pastor for the gay community. There will undoubtedly be many in the Christian world who disagree with him and criticize him, which is part of why I think it’s important to post this and get support from the gay community.

If you want to try the original posting on his blog, you can find it here.. I will repost the one I was able to get to, which is from the Huffington Post.

Posted: 09/27/2014 8:32 am EDT Updated: 09/27/2014 12:59 pm EDT
Sometimes I wonder if I’ll have gay children.

I’m not sure if other parents think about this, but I do — quite often.

Maybe it’s because I have many gay people in my family and circle of friends. It’s in my genes and in my tribe.

Maybe it’s because, as a pastor of students, I’ve seen and heard the horror stories of gay Christian kids — from both inside and outside of the closet — trying to be part of the Church.
Maybe it’s because, as a Christian, I interact with so many people who find homosexuality to be the most repulsive thing imaginable, and who make that abundantly clear at every conceivable opportunity.

For whatever reason, it’s something that I ponder frequently. As a pastor and a parent, I wanted to make some promises to you, and to my two kids right now…

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I must admit this stuck in my head. The more important thing is the message about being different, whether you are queer, intersex, or some other identity. Different is good, though the world often doesn’t see it that way. I just saw the movie The Giver which has a similar theme, that of the perils of attempting to embrace perfection and sameness and vilifying diversity. It’s definitely worth seeing and it’s a message much needed in our world.

Portland’s Arena Football AWESOMENESS!

IMG_0052Football and lesbians. What a great combination! I’ve found that the stereotype is either really true, or not true at all.  There doesn’t seem to be much gray area with regard to football. I do know that I can’t get my gay boyfriends to even consider football (or, really, any sport), yet I know there are as many differences between gay people as there are among people in general.  There are football loving and hating straight people, gay people, males, females, etc.  There is also a reason there are stereotypes…if there weren’t some truth to it, there wouldn’t be a stereotype.

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Cheering for an Ax Murderess??

I can’t imagine how it came to this.  I mean, I’m nice and kind-hearted.  I pay my taxes and am perhaps TOO moral at times.  Yet here I am…cheering for an ax murderess.  Surely you have heard of her…Lizzie Borden? You know the (sick and twisted) childhood jump rope rhyme..’.Lizzie Borden took an axe and gave her mother forty whacks. When she saw what she had done, she gave her father forty one.’  Gruesome, unimaginable, right? Yet Portland Center Stage managed to” make” me cheer for her. Four different times so far.

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How to Prepare Kids for Gay Pride

This is good information about preparing kids for Pride.
Happy Pride, everyone!!

A Lovely Reminder

This is in the garden at the meditation center where I have my office. For me, it’s a lovely reminder to slow down and look within.


BREAKING: OREGON Finally Gets Equality

BREAKING: Love wins! Judge rules OR marriage ban unconstitutional! Read more here:

This is the tweet I just got about marriage equality in Oregon and considering all the other states who ruled their marriage ban unconstitutional (like Arkansas and Utah), it is about time !! I went to a rally many years ago and got a T-shirt that says ‘It’s Time’ on the back of it. I’ve been wearing that thing ever since and it’s looking a little threadbare. It has been time for a very long time and that joyous day is here. Time to celebrate!!!