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Homophobia Hits Home

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(Avoid alliteration always!)

I will stipulate that we might not be a strictly "conventional" couple, what with both of us being men, and one of us being a pink-coiffed drag queen who's about six-foot-eight in heels, but for the most part my husband and I just sort of go about our gay business. We neither seek input nor require guidance from our families, any church, or the government on how best to conduct our Big Gay Relationship. 

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Teaching point here: as my best friend says, "One monkey don't stop no show."

Same-Sex Marriage Really is a Threat – Part II

gay-marriage-cake-topper-two-couples_0I just reblogged a thoughtful and brilliantly insightful post from the blog Nursing Clio on which I have a few thoughts that I didn’t want to include in a rambling 14-inch reblogging “comment.”  So instead, I shall ramble on about them here:

For all that I don’t consider myself particularly invested in the legalization (or decriminalization or wherever we’re at with the whole thing now) of Same-Sex Marriage, it occurs to me that I post about it kind of a lot.  While it is by no means the be-all, end-all issue that it is sort of publicized as—anti-gay attitudes and policies and organizations and funeral-picketing churches will neither be permanently eradicated from nor permanently enshrined in the American Experience on the whim of nine people in robes—I do see how it is useful as a sort of shorthand for “gay rights,” and as a barometer for their degree of popularity in our current culture.  (The fallacy that certain civil rights should be granted or denied to a swath of the populace based on their popularity is a conversation for another post.) Continue reading

Same-Sex Marriage Does Threaten "Traditional" Marriage

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Recently on Facebook some friends were passing around a quote by comedian Ellen DeGeneres who was responding to the charge that same-sex marriage will “threaten” heterosexual marriages. Ellen quipped:

“Portia and I have been married for 4 years and they have been the happiest of my life. And in those 4 years, I don’t think we hurt anyone else’s marriage. I asked all of my neighbors and they say they’re fine...”

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Need a Gay Gift?

XMAS KMSHoliday shopping can be tricky, especially if you’re friends with the Queer Who Has Everything. (You know those gays and their disposable income.)  They’re all stocked up on Gay Apparel, and even if you wanted to gift someone a “figgy pudding,” where in the heck would you find one?  And what message are you really trying to send with a present that’s any kind of figgy?  No, the solution is definitely a book.  Like, a semi-steamy piece of gay fiction.  Perhaps even a gay love story in which a pivotal soul-searching scene takes place around a Nebraska family’s Christmas brunch table.  That’s the ticket! you say.  But it sounds like literary figgy pudding to me: wherever would I find such an item?  It so happens that I have written just such a book, and you can get it all kinds of places — heck, JMS Books, my (independent, queer) publisher, is even having a big sale!  The paperback fits snugly in any stocking, or the eBook, what with its instant delivery and all, makes a great last-minute gift.

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"Happy Holidays"

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I bought my Christmas tie at Hong Kong’s Stanley Market ages ago for like two dollars, and have worn it to work (in strict accordance with my company’s uniform guidelines, I might add, cuz that’s how I roll) for the whole month of December pretty much ever since. We celebrate Christmas, but I am not a Christian, and my tie, as befits a Christmas tie from China, is very generic; no Jesus, no Santa, just a bunch of snowmen and gold star-topped trees.

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Having a happy holiday shouldn't ruin your Christmas...

“One Million” Moms Miss the Mark (Again) on Ellen Ad

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Surprising approximately no one anywhere, (Nowhere Near) One Million Moms has chimed in on JC Penney’s latest, apparently hugely offensive, television ad, starring the biggest threat to American Family Values since the fully functioning brain, Ellen Degeneres.

As you probably know, One Million Moms is a group whose membership is exaggerated in its name by about 95%, specifically spawned by the American Family Association first to take and then to publicize “offense” to all things gay that threaten The Children.  That they take offense to the insidious threat to decency that is Ellen in general is not news, nor the fact that they have already launched one “boycott” of JC Penney, based on their choice of Ellen as a spokesperson, that made the company rich beyond its wildest dreams.  Where One Million Moms’ Facebook page (before they took it down) reached a zenith of about 50,000 “Likes,” the Facebook page “1 Million People Who Support Ellen for JC Penney” sits pretty at more like 325,000; if the influence of these “moms” is not debatable (and here we are, talking about them again), its effectiveness certainly is. Continue reading

Closets are for Clothes

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Today is National Coming Out Day.  One of my favorite holidays on the Queer Calendar, although I traditionally celebrate it from the sidelines.  At 40, I've been out of the closet for more years than I was in it, and the door on my closet hung half-open all askew on its hinges at its most secure.  I was Raggedy Ann for Halloween when I was in Preschool, for heaven's sake -- I never got to surprise…

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You know how I love to reblog my own sh*t. Not that you need me telling you what to do, but Happy National Coming Out Day, everybody!