Posted by Mike Martinez
I had a great conversation and long over-due catching up session with some really great Fresno friends that I’ve known for years. The topic of “toxic” people came up, and actually, it was the second or third time people who are bad for you has come up in conversation. You know what that means. I need to write down a few thoughts while they are swirling around in my head…
You know what’s REALLY said about toxic people? Most of the time they are clueless that they are nothing but bitterness and poison. They don’t get it. They don’t see how they are always negative, and always backbiting, and always quick to see and talk about the ugly side of things. They often wonder why drama and tension and conflict always seem to follow them but they honestly don’t see how they are always the ones injecting the venom.
Toxic people are talking behind your back right now. They can’t help it and they won’t even if you try. People have to make the internal choice to not be poisonous in their relationships. You can’t fix that for them. Toxic people need to be let go and you can’t think twice about it. I think one of the things I’ve gotten much better at as I’ve matured in the last few years is recognizing these people sooner rather than later. Let them and their pettiness, and their jealousy, and their gossiping, and their lying, and their ego go. You’ll be healthier and happier for it.
My name is Mike Martinez and I approved this blog. ;-)