I don’t know about you, but with all the dialog, about what’s happening with Prop8, DOMA and the Supreme Court, in my surroundings, many people are talking about it, and whether it’s relatives, friends, the chick at the check-out, or the bag boy, most seem pretty supportive of the measures. Oh sure, there is the occasional guy in the pick-up, with the shotgun in the back window, who will spout out something like “oh the f*&king queers want to take over everything”. But, out of all this, brings me to what I wanted to talk bout…Stereotypes. In a few of my conversations with people, it’s interesting and sometimes annoying, to the point I want to stand up and yell at them, how they categorically describe gay people. First off, the media. In an effort to deliver a news story, whether in print or broadcast, the headline tells it all, short and to the point, as in “Bears Roar on Folsom Street”. Now, most of us understand what that means, but the older lady down the street from me, looks and says to me one day, ” you don’t look like the rest of gays, because you’re not all big and hairy! Bingo, she has her uninformed, stereotypical perceptions locked in. My second, and last one is “Flamboyant Pride Parade on Michigan Ave” which, when seen and read about, depicts flamboyantly or barely dressed people showing their wild side and being proud about at the same time. Now, don’t misunderstand, I’m all for people in the community expressing themselves. It’s the stereotype snap shot for the non-LBGT person that concerns me the most.
Well, it may be just me, but being known and self-described as Gay, is enough for me, and I really don’t like that, I just want to be known as Tom.
So, I leave you today with a little free form verse from ~River-Wolf
Be everything you want to be.
Break the stereotype