Loose lips sink ships
No truer words have ever been spoken. Although gossip and backbiting are human nature and can come as natural as breathing or eating they carry the destructive force of monsoon to any enterprise. When I was an evangelist for the Pentecostal holiness movement many, many moons ago I was shocked and surprised at how almost every church in every state I traveled to was afflicted with member and clergy alike who just couldn’t keep their traps shut.
Not to get preachy or anything but Proverbs says that “death and life are in the power of the tongue” and that is so wonderfully and horribly true. If you don’t have anything good to say about people and you don’t something from FIRST HAND knowledge. Shut the fuck up. If ALL you ever have to say is negative or biting or cutting or degrading. Shut the fuck up. If what you have to say about someone can’t be said with them standing in the room the SHUT THE FUCK UP.
Words can kill. The can wound and they can blight someone’s spirit in such a way that we never really know how deep we’ve cut or hindered them. Don’t get me wrong. There is a time to rebuke or chastise or hold people accountable for their lies or ugly actions. This isn’t what I’m talking about. Church folks eat their own, they always have. Politicians eat their own. They always will. Us gays can be no better some times and that doesn’t have to be. Are you a help to your organization or department or team or are you the reason there is drag or the ship is taking on water?
Only you can decide.