Haters always gonna hate

So I was roaming in the Castro tonight after my workout and I came to find out that Jake’s on Market closed a few weeks ago.  This made me sad.  I’ve dined at Jake’s and met the owners.  Really classy guys.  After reading the signed letter posted on the door I was even more sad…

Here is the letter as posted on the doors and windows and on their website:

With much regret, Jake’s on Market has closed.

To our many regular customers, we are very grateful for the support you gave us in our desire to open a warm, neighborhood restaurant owned and operated by a family here in the Castro, for the residents of the Castro.  I just wish there had been more of you.  But we will always remember your kindness.

And for a small minority of people who rooted for our failure before we ever opened our doors because we weren’t the same restaurant that had previously occupied this space, and which we had no connection to, well, we’ll never forget you either.  Reading reviews and ratings on Yelp such as, “I hated the color of their T-shirts, I’ll never be back.  I give them one star!” or being criticized for the taste of food that we have never even served at Jake’s, was both amusing and demoralizing, not only to us as owners, but to our co-workers who put all of their efforts into giving each guest a great experience.

Lastly, we wanted to thank the wonderful people we got to know who worked with us both behind the scenes in the kitchen and in the front of the house serving you.  Owning a restaurant is a 24-hour a day experience, and we couldn’t have picked a nicer group of people to spend our time with. Life goes on, we’ll continue to raise our family, and we wish all of you our very best wishes.

Sincerely,  Brad and Tim.

What a terrible commentary on our community and I’m not picking on or singling out the Castro.  This shit happens all the time.  Whether it’s Fresno or Seattle or L.A. or Dallas or Miami or Philly.  Haters gonna hate.  Haters gonna be dicks.  Haters have no shame.  Jake’s was a quaint, cute, very nice place to dine and I’m sorry that it sounds like there were those in the community that didn’t help it succeed.  It doesn’t surprise me.

Maybe it wasn’t meant to be, opening and running a restaurant in this economic climate is a tough sell.  Just thinking of those who would be malicious or intentionally put forth effort to see it fail angers me.  I’ve known these type of queens.  I’ve dealt with these type of queens.  If I had a dollar for every senseless, unfounded attack I’ve had to bear over the last decade I’d be a rich man.

Haters gonna hate and haters gonna be dicks.  You have to steel your mind…and your heart.  You have to put your head down and roll up your sleeves and keep doing what you know is right because two-faced hypocrites that abound in our communities will always be there.  We have to succeed in spite of them.

My name is Mike Martinez and I approved this blog!  ;-)

4 thoughts on “Haters always gonna hate”

  1. Thank you for writing this. I wish the creeps would read it. Why where there is such opposition against us already, why oh why do we turn against our own? Over what? Colors? Shirts? Shoes that weren’t Prada? That sort of bitter queen should be seriously ashamed of herself.


  2. I’m running into some of this with my book. Some people have read it and hated it, and I’m fine with that, but some people have given it one-star on places like Goodreads because their friend didn’t like it, so without planning to ever read it, they smack it down. Those who can, do, and those who can’t go on internet review sites and try to bring people down.



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