Utah Parents Agree with School’s Decision to Out Their Son

A teenage boy came out to his classmates during an assignment. This caused a minor riff with some of his peers. Later on that day, an aide saw the boy hugging another boy. The school officials decided to take action and called the parents, who were not aware that their son was gay.

That is the easy part of this article. The basic facts typed out in black and white. After this day, the boy’s story became the school’s story, the activists’ story and the parents’ story. Did the school act appropriately? Did the step on the boy’s rights? Did they endanger the child? Tell me what you think, but first, let me tell you what I think.

I think the school did what needed to be done and before you boo me, listen up. If the school had done nothing and this child was harmed (either by himself or others), people would demonize the school for not doing anything. You have to keep in mind that his classmates were not all supportive. If the school had done nothing, the parents could have lost their son in many ways.

By taking action, the school did the hard thing. They stood up to ensure that the child was taken care of and that his parents knew what was going on with him. Too often these days, parents don’t know what their kids are doing and sometimes they don’t care. Schools used to work with the parents to help raise the children. In this day and age it seems that the school’s staff is an enemy.

I am glad that this worked out and I am glad that this school decided to help the child. The fact that everything worked out tells me that these parents are involved in his life and work with his teachers, not against him. This is how America should expect our educational system to work.


via ABCNews

3 thoughts on “Utah Parents Agree with School’s Decision to Out Their Son”

  1. This one appears to have turned out well, but what if the family had freaked? It could just as easily went the other way, with the boy’s family reacting badly. We’ve all heard about kids thrown out of their homes, abused, forced into “reparative” therapy, and excommunicated from their churches.
    I don’t know if I like the idea of the school taking a student’s right to decide when to come out to their family away, and taking it upon themselves to intervene in their personal life. The school has a responsibility to protect a student while at school, but does that extend into such a personal part of that student’s family life? The school’s job is to teach, and to provide an environment conducive to that. Student safety is a big aspect of all that, but does their right to control things at the school extend into the family lives of their students?
    If the student started having problems based on his coming out at school, then I could see the parents being advised, but this pre-emptive intervention doesn’t look like it was done for the right reasons.
    Part of growing up is dealing with problems, and the school took that option away from this student. He might have had the opportunity to grow, gain confidence, deal with people who were hostile to him, and learn some things about human nature. He lost the ability to decide for himself something very important… when to confide in his parents.
    This one turned out well. Groups like the Trevor Project deal with the bad outcomes every day.
    I think this is another example of the contradiction of conservatives: they want to keep government from intruding into their lives as much as possible, but when it suits them, they’re quite happy to have it do just that.


    1. Keep in mind that the school received permission from the student before they contacted his parents.
      As for the government comment, I personally don’t view the public school system as part of our government. I know that seems silly, but I just don’t.
      But I do agree that his could have turned out badly. In a situation like this, the school is damned if they do and damned if they don’t.



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