Headin’ to the chapel…

This week I had the pleasure of attending my cousin’s Civil Union Ceremony in New Jersey.

Never having been to a gay ceremony before; I really didn’t know what to expect. What I experienced was nothing short of extraordinary. The service itself was held in a 300 year old Presbyterian church, complete with gorgeous stained glass windows. The ceremony was truly beautiful, and was a testament to the love and commitment that they shared. For all the beauty of the event, what struck me the most was how completely unremarkable it was.

The day was gorgeous, the setting was ideal, the service was lovely and the sermon heartfelt and uplifting. In short it was just like any other wedding I have ever been to. The only difference lay in the fact that rather than a heterosexual union, this ceremony was meant to join two gay men.

Had Sorren and T.J been a heterosexual couple; the ceremony would have been identical. Tears would have flown, heartfelt congratulations would have been offered, and their long term commitment to each other (23 years and counting!) would have been lauded. Instead of marriage, with all the accompanying rights and responsibilities, they were only able to be joined in a Civil Union.  It’s sad to think that in a world of 72 day celebrity marriages heterosexual couples are given prefferential treatment simply due to the fact of their opposite anatomies.

I was saddened by the inequity, but encouraged at how far we as a community have come.

Growing up I couldn’t have imagined a day that I would bear witness to two men publicly declaring their love for each other, and could not have even conceived that such a thing might take place in a church. We truly have made great strides and we owe it to subsequent generations to continue the progress

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Kim Kardashian Divorce Makes Her Instant Poster Girl for Marriage Equality

What do you think? Are Kim Kardashian and Britney Spears now the perfect poster girls for marriage equality?

“Kim Kardashian files for divorce after 72 days. Another example of how same-sex marriage is destroying the sanctity of the very institution,” joked George Takei on Twitter, expressing the sentiment of many.

Tweeted gossip blogger Perez Hilton: “Straight people do a damn well good job themselves of ruining the sanctity of marriage! #MarriageForAll.”

Kardashian joins Britney Spears and other celebrities whose quickie marriages have made marriage equality advocates shake their heads.

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And here: Kim Kardashian Divorce: $250K for Each Day of Marriage

Other short celebrity unions

Britney Spears and Jason Alexander – 55 hours

The pair, who were just 22 when they tied the knot in 2004 in Las Vegas, annulled the marriage after 55 hours.

“We were looking out the windows and looking at the lights and the city. We were like, ‘This is a real pretty, beautiful night’,” Mr Alexander told US television network NBC in 2004.

“It was cool and we were looking at each other and we were like, ‘Let’s do something wild and crazy and let’s go get married just for the hell of it. Let’s go. … So we just got up and said, ‘Let’s go do it’.”

Cher and Greg Allman – nine days

Cher’s marriage to musician Greg Allman lasted just nine days. They took his Learjet and flew to Las Vegas to get married – just three days after Cher’s divorce from Sonny Bono was finalised.

Renee Zellweger and Kenny Chesney – four months

Renee Zellweger and country music star Kenny Chesney married in a small ceremony on the island of St John in the US Virgin Islands in 2005.

After just four months, she filed for an annulment, listing “fraud” as the reason for the break-up with the country music star.

Jennifer Lopez and Chris Judd – eight months

Jennifer Lopez married dancer Cris Judd in 2002, but they separated after just eight months. It was Lopez’s second marriage after a one-year union to Cuban-born waiter Ojani Noa in the 1990s.

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“Marriage Equality” polls at 61% support — 9% higher than “gay marriage”

In a recent poll of New Jersey voters, “gay marriage” or “same-sex marriage” polled at 52% support, which is good news.

Even better news, however, was that “Marriage Equality” polls at 61% support in the very same poll. What a difference a word makes!

Or, as the saying goes, we want to get married! …not “gay married”…

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Lesbian Couple Crowned Homecoming King And Queen

Their nominations have made a difference for many students at Patrick Henry High School. (San Diego, CA)

“The fact that other people are feeling more confident about themselves or feeling like they might have a chance at doing this, it’s opening doors,”